Aspergers stress

May 3, 2015

Less Stress in Asperger’s

Aspergers Stress

The effect of Aspergers stress…

Recently I ran a course for people with Asperger’s and their family. The topic was on how to have less stress in your life. This is a common issue. Normally experienced in autism families due to the nature of the condition.

Furthermore, I was impressed with the input by the group. However especially with the two young boys in the group. Two 12-year-olds who had only met earlier that day. They bonded on the train journey to the workshop. Their mothers had already met on a previous course. I was expecting the boys to be a bit shy. Instead, they were animated right from the beginning. Furthermore, they engaged with the group right away.

The boys understanding when I was explaining how the unconscious mind works versus the conscious mind was impressive. They were able to take part. Giving answers and examples of their own. Much to the surprise of the group and their mothers who were naturally proud. Not to mention impressed by their knowledge.

Their understanding of how the human mind works were astounding. In addition, they were eager to share their views with others.

During the exercises. They remained very still and focused despite being excited at having made a new friend. The fact they both had Asperger’s made it all the more special having them participate so fully and articulately.

Challenges

One of the biggest issues facing young people with Asperger’s is getting a good education.

The lack of support and understanding causes a lot of stress. Not only to the individual but to their family as well.

They assume the teachers are able to deal with their individual needs, Sadly this is often not the case. About three-quarters of teachers have not had even the most basic training in Autism. Additionally, they struggle to cope with the rising numbers in their class.

As a result, their teachers assume that their intellectual ability matches their cognitive ability. Therefore misunderstanding is common. This causes the young person to become introvert in some cases. Desperate to disappear into the crowd. Inappropriate behaviours like causing disruption and upset to others. Social skills can be at odds with their intellectual knowledge. This can often be beyond their years resulting in frustration and confusion.

Aspergers Stress

Stress levels can be on high alert. Everyday social experiences can be like a minefield. They do not always read social cues. As their intelligence is often of average or above ability. They are aware that they are different which can lead to low self-esteem. If not dealt with it can lead to depression throughout their lives. They feel they are living in a pressure cooker. In addition, keeping their emotions contained all day long as they try to fit in. Once in the safety of their own home. Boom! This can explode in a meltdown (panic attack). This of course has an impact on other family members. They often take the full brunt of these meltdowns.

Effects of Stress

They live with the constant stress that little or nothing can set their loved one-off. Additionally, no amount of reasoning can help alleviate household stress.
The family often seek support and advice. However, this is not always forthcoming. In most cases, the outside world is not always aware of the true impact of what living with autism is like. The young person does not always display this behaviour in the classroom. Therefore; no additional support is thought to be needed. With no back up from the school. The families are left to deal with it on their own. This can have an impact on their own mental health and relationships being affected. Stressed children become stressed adults

Hypnosis and Alternative Therapies

Hypnosis and other alternative therapies and interventions like Mindfulness can help alleviate stress levels in families living with autism. Less than 15% are in meaningful employment. This is despite their intelligence levels and academic qualifications. Not only do they have inadequate social skills but also often lack confidence and low self-esteem.

Undoubtedly. We have to address how the person with Asperger’s feels and reacts to everyday situations. Putting less pressure on their academic ability will help. We can teach parents and other family members to become less stressed. This will have a positive effect on the whole household including the Aspie member.

Emotional Freedom

Hypnosis can help Aspies find emotional freedom to express themselves in a more positive way. This will reduce their stress levels. In addition, enabling them to concentrate more. Furthermore, it will nurture this extra ‘ability’ that they have been gifted with.

They have many positive, unique qualities to offer. However, to enable them to flourish we must give them the tools and techniques required. To help them become full, integrated members of society. Reducing their stress and anxiety levels will not only help. It will enable them to lead a healthier and happier lifestyle they deserve. In addition, it will also allow their families to do the same.